Hope+Wellness
Stella Assefa, LCSW
Licensed Clinical Social Worker
Hi there, I’m Erica :)
Stella Assefa, LCSW
fully Licensed in: Virginia
Locations: Washington DC; Falls church, va; teletherapy
I am so proud of you for being here. Taking the first step to healing can be uncomfortable and scary for a multitude of reasons — the fear of failure, the fear of the unknown, the fear of the unfamiliar, the fear of vulnerability, the fear of hurt, the fear of feeling what has been tucked away intentionally (or unintentionally), and so much more. Taking this step could also feel exciting, liberating, inspiring… I’m here to tell you that these feelings are normal and valid. Whether you are here "in spite of feeling” or “because of feeling”, what matters is that you are here. My goal is to support you as you continue to take that next step towards healing, and to make the first step you took worth taking. I want to instill hope and show you that there is a light at the end of this long, dark tunnel, and that you won’t walk towards that light alone - I will be there with a flashlight every step of the way. People who have taken this step and embarked on this journey with me over the years continuously confirm the reason why I am here in the first place. To hold space for someone and have them trust me to witness the good, the bad, the complicated and all of the parts that makes us human is nothing but a privilege. I want to remove the shame that may come with those parts that make us human and to show that people can be a safe space for their vulnerability and pain. Getting to the other side of pain and suffering can feel nearly impossible, and can lead to people staying stuck in it until it begins to feel like their normal and only option - and I am here to show you that it does not have to be. I’m a Licensed Clinical Social Worker and Licensed Master of Social Work with a specialty working with young adults and adults who struggle with trauma, ADHD, anxiety, attachment issues, relationship issues, and life transitions. I also work with couples who struggle with communication and find themselves stuck in the same harmful cycles that seem nearly impossible to break. Over the course of my career, I have worked with children, adolescents, adults and older adults from diverse cultural, socioeconomic and clinical backgrounds. I have also worked with clients across various settings which include community-based, in-home, and private practice environments and have received trauma informed training in modalities such as DBT, CBT and mindfulness.
Philosophy
I believe that connection is at the heart of growth—connection to yourself, to others, and to the life you want to create. Healing comes from trusting your own experiences, acknowledging your resilience, and letting your energy and creativity ripple out into the world. You don’t need to be fixed, and you don’t need to shrink to fit anyone else’s expectations—you just need space to remember who you are and what you already have to offer.
My role is to help you honor your story, trust your voice, and create a life that feels meaningful and fully yours. You are already powerful. Therapy can be the space to step fully into that power, trust it, and let it guide you in life, relationships, and everything you create.—
I see counseling as a collaborative process—one where we work together to identify and move toward the goals that bring you greater fulfillment and peace. I bring clinical knowledge, tools, and insight, and you bring a deep, lived understanding of your life, experiences, and what you need. You are the expert on your life, and I’m here to listen without judgment, hold space for what matters most to you, and support you on your journey toward greater well-being and mental health. I am the person in your corner—someone who will always meet you with compassion and offer honest, thoughtful feedback.
I believe that relationships—especially the ones we form early in life—play a powerful role in shaping how we think, feel, and relate to others today. In therapy, we may explore your past experiences, such as childhood relationships, attachment styles, family dynamics, and other key moments in your personal history, to understand how they may be influencing your current challenges. I work to create a secure and trusting therapeutic relationship where you will feel safe and supported to do work that may be difficult and vulnerable to make meaningful change.
I believe that when you gain insight into your emotional patterns, you can begin to respond to yourself—and to life—with greater clarity, freedom, and intention.
My approach is integrative and personalized, incorporating techniques from Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT), Internal Family Systems (IFS), and mindfulness practices to create an empowering and supportive environment for you. This means that, depending on your needs, we may challenge and replace unhelpful thought patterns, learn practical skills for regulating yourself and interacting with others, cultivate your ability to nurture yourself, and become more in touch with the present moment. Each session is tailored to meet your unique needs, strengths, and goals, creating a space where you feel empowered to become your truest self.
Specialty Areas
Perinatal mental health, depression, anxiety, and mood concerns
Becoming a mother is one of the most profound transitions in a woman’s life. The challenges of motherhood are immense and the measures of success are invisible— often with little recognition or clear markers of success. The emotional weight of motherhood can bring up past wounds and trauma, challenge self worth and leave your self esteem feeling shaken on even the most capable women.
I’m here to support you through this transition with care, compassion, and a nonjudgmental space to process it all. Together, we can work to cultivate a healthier relationship with your emotions so you can feel more empowered to show up the way you want to for yourself and your children. If you're hoping to break cycles of intergenerational trauma, I am honored to walk beside you as you create a new path—one grounded in healing, insight, and intention.
teen Girls with depression, anxiety, low self-esteem, relationship issues, stress, identity, and/or adjustment concerns
Adolescence is a crucial time in a person’s life. In a world that often values achievement, grades, and planning for the future over well-being, building a strong sense of self-worth can feel like an uphill climb. Doing that plus navigating friendships and figuring out who you are, and it’s no wonder teens are often overwhelmed.
I’m passionate about working with teenagers during this formative time. My goal is to help them develop a healthy relationship with themselves and with others as they move toward adulthood. I support teens who are navigating depression, anxiety, low self-esteem, relationship issues, stress, communication challenges, and building a positive identity. In therapy, we work together to build the skills and insight they need to feel more confident, connected, and find contentment.
Women’s mental health
Being a woman in today’s world often means carrying invisible weight. You might feel pressure to meet unspoken expectations, notice how gender roles shape your choices, or find yourself carrying emotional labor that others don’t even see. Living in a patriarchal society leaves marks—sometimes through clear traumas, other times through the quiet ways we’re dismissed or made to feel small. Even being expected to carry too much, or treated like your body matters more than your voice, can shape how you see yourself. Over time, those experiences can make it harder to trust yourself and harder to feel safe in your relationships or confident in what you deserve.
I work with women who feel disconnected from themselves—who are questioning their identity, burned out, stuck in painful relationships, or worn down by self-doubt and old beliefs they never chose. In therapy, we’ll explore how these patterns took shape and work toward helping you feel more grounded in who you are and what you need
depression and Mood concerns
Living with a mood disorder can feel like being at the mercy of something you can’t fully name or control. The highs and lows can distort how you see yourself, your relationships, and your future. I work with clients to make sense of these shifts, identify patterns, and build tools that support emotional stability and self-compassion. Whether your mood feels persistently low, overwhelmingly high, or caught in a confusing cycle of both, we’ll work together to restore a sense of balance, meaning, and connection in your daily life.
anxiety
Anxiety is often a sign of a mind working overtime to keep you safe—but when it becomes overwhelming, it can shrink your world and steal your peace. Whether it shows up as constant worry, panic attacks, obsessive thoughts, or social fears, anxiety can make even everyday tasks feel daunting. My goal is to help you understand what your anxiety is trying to say, and to equip you with strategies that quiet the noise while building trust in your own resilience. Together, we’ll work toward a life that feels more open, grounded, and manageable.
Trauma, PTSD, c-ptsd
Experiences of trauma can leave a lasting imprint—on how we see ourselves, how we relate to others, and how safe we feel in the world. Whether the trauma stems from a single event or a series of painful experiences over time, healing is possible. I strive to create a space where your story can be held with care, at your own pace and on your own terms. In our work together, we might explore how past experiences have shaped your present and gently untangle the survival strategies that once protected you but may no longer serve you. I draw from trauma-informed approaches to help restore a sense of safety, connection, and self-trust. My goal is to support you in reclaiming your voice, honoring your resilience, and moving toward a future that feels more grounded and free.
Additional Areas of Expertise
Academic Stress and Pressure
Adjusting to Life Transitions
Adolescence
Anxiety
Attachment
Bipolar Disorder
Depression
Existential Depression
Finding Meaning and Purpose
Finding Passion and Creativity Again
Generalized Anxiety
General Stress of Being Human
Generational Trauma
Grief and Loss
Identity
Infertility and Reproductive Challenges
Low Self Esteem
Maternal Depression
Maternal Anxiety
Mood disorders
Perfectionism
Persistent Depressive Disorder
Personal Growth
Premenstrual Dysphoric Disorder
Pre-teens
Relationship and Communication Difficulties
Seasonal Affective Disorders
Self-Care
Self-Criticism
Sensitivity
Social Anxiety
Stress Management
Struggling to Launch
Women’s Mental Health
Young Adults
more about ME
hobbies + what I like to do for fun
Outside of therapy, you can usually find me curled up with a good fantasy or romantasy book, walking my dog, or singing along to something that moves me. I’ll intermittently pick up a craft—crocheting, painting, sewing—whatever feels creatively grounding at the time. Lately, I’ve been curious about mythology and nature-based spirituality—both for the stories they tell and the way they connect us to something bigger than ourselves. I believe joy, rest, and creativity are just as important to our healing as insight and effort, and I try to honor those values in my own life, too.
Some of my favorite approaches and resources include:
Values Clarification
DBT-Based Mindfulness (“What” and “How”) Skills
Mapping the Nervous System
Visualization Exercises
favorite QUOTES
“Boundaries are the distance at which I can love you and me simultaneously.”
“Courage is not the absence of fear, but rather the assessment that something else is more important than fear.”
“The curious paradox is that when I accept myself just as I am, then I can change.”