Sometimes it’s hard not to compare yourself to others. Around you, everyone else seems to know what they want out of life. They’re finding the right relationships and advancing their careers, but you feel lost, unsure of yourself and what direction to head towards. It’s hard to know who you are and where you belong in the world.
You try and do your best but it never seems to be enough. There’s so much pressure to achieve and you find yourself trying to fit within certain molds or expectations.
When you’re feeling this way, it helps to go within. Spending time focusing on others drains your energy and can take away from what your own sense of purpose and passions. So focus instead on what’s important to you, and what you bring to your own life. Because you’re the only person in this world who can be you, which is awesome. We each have our own paths and contributions in life. So spend time working to discover that which is within yourself, the greatness, light, and cultivate that spark.
Here are 12 Quotes to Inspire You to Focus on Yourself Instead of Others
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Sometimes in life, we feel lost and confused, unsure of which direction to go in our lives. Should we go to this school or that school? Should we stay with this person or leave? Well-meaning friends and family may give us advice and feedback, but we end up feeling even more lost among all their opinions and perspectives. Many people also find it difficult to make their own decisions, as they want so much for others to be happy, that they’ve learned to set aside their own desires for that of others.
So often we hear messages from society that we need to be fitter, prettier, more youthful, wealthier and to reach some future state of being in order to be happy but the truth is that peace and contentment are available to you in the here and now.
So many of us struggle with knowing what it is we are meant to do with our lives and career. We get up and go to work from 9 to 5 and wonder — is this it? Is this what my life is meant to look like? Life is full of so many trade offs — we choose the secure job over the interest that we’re passionate about but seemingly doesn’t make as much sense.
So many of us are able to love and to feel compassion for others, but what about ourselves? So often, we feel inadequate — we are all too familiar with our weaknesses and judge ourselves for our bodies, mistakes we’ve made, things we’ve said and done, feeling guilty and undisciplined for all the tasks we haven’t done, our level of productivity — the list goes on.
It can be scary and overwhelming to learn that your teen is depressed. You want to support your child, but don’t quite know how. You watch them struggle to get up in the morning in order to make it on time to school. They aren’t getting much sleep and don’t seem to find much enjoyment in things anymore.
We all experience pain and heartbreak in our lives. It can be difficult to let go of past hurt and disappointments. With depression, we are often stuck in the past, and with anxiety, we are often worried about the future. The key to happiness is letting go and living in the present to feel more peace and enjoyment in life. Below are 17 letting go quotes that’ll help you move forward through difficult times and heal again.
As we go about our days and work toward happiness, success, and freedom, we often forget to tune into life itself. We fall out of touch with our connection to others and to something larger than ourselves. We become stuck in thoughts about the future or past that we forget that life is happening now.
Thoughts affect your reality — they create an energy and perspective that shape your actions. Positive affirmations can help you adopt a positive mindset and changes in your life. Although there are many things in life we cannot choose, we can always choose new thoughts and perspectives — new ways of thinking and possibilities for the future.
Intimacy is often confused with sex, but in actuality it involves feeling deeply emotionally connected with another person and a desire to be deeply known. Intimacy is not something achieved quickly, but rather something that continues to mature and develop over time, like a garden or fine wine.
Sometimes it’s hard to accept who we are. We struggle with feeling comfortable in our own skin. We’re hard on ourselves and can’t help but see all the flaws. What’s needed is compassion — not only for others, but ourselves. Here are 18 quotes to inspire self-compassion and peace.